Social Media and Tribes #10: Facebook and low self-esteem?

by Deepika Bajaj on September 1, 2010

Recently, I received a newsletter from WebGuild and they had an article: Facebook Activity Correlate To Low Self-Esteem & Narcissism. It says According to a new study by Dr. Soraya Mehdizadeh of York University in Toronto, greater online activity on Facebook is correlated with low self-esteem and narcissism… OR is it just another one of those criticisms that Wright Brothers had to face when they crash-landed on their first flight to realize their dream for man to fly. Of course! there was media broadcasters there, too, who might have found it funny and ridiculed their efforts.

And really do we have to do research on people’s self-esteem because there is a self that comes in the word “self-esteem” which means that it is based on one’s own view of oneself. Self-respect is one’s own personal choice and it comes from the self and self alone.

If updating your own FB page is low self-esteem, then does that mean that the news reporters who come on TV everyday with stories of doom and gloom are negative and depressed?

OR

If you raised money for your philanthropic efforts through FB, then does that mean that your organization has a low self-esteem?

Here is why I think we need to focus more on the positive:

  1. Self in self-respect: Don’t allow others’ opinions to be more important than your own opinion of yourself. I post positive quotes from leaders on my FB pg frequently, it is just my way of sharing a piece of information I found that might be valuable for someone. Now, when I stopped, some folks wrote to me to start again. They found it like a morning boost and derived motivation from it. Needless to say, there is no dearth of people, who make fun of this habit of mine. The question is that I really feel that I am sharing with my friends a pearl of wisdom with a “quote”. So, why would I let some naysayers deter me? This makes me wonder that some of most frequent posters on FB like Oprah, Barack Obama might have low self-esteem!
  2. Call to Action from your community: There is something amazing about being in a lunch meeting and just posting a question on FB page. Most recently, I was planning a trip to Europe. On a dinner at my place, a friend commented, “If you are in Prague, visit Berlin”. And then in a following conversation someone said, “You might want to check out Vienna instead”. And since I have never been to Berlin or Vienna, I left it to my community of FB friends when I posted “Need help deciding global trotters: Prague to Berlin OR Prague to Vienna?”. Within a few hours, I had recommendations from friends who had gone to these places. In fact, I would have never known that they have traveled to these places if not for their response to my question.

Consider numerous inventions that we take for granted today: airplanes, electric lights, television, telephone, computers – they were inventions of individuals who ignored the ridicule and stayed focused on their creativity and positive possibility of realization of their efforts on mankind. I believe that when you have a gloomy picture of what the world looks like, you’re unreceptive to the potential assistance of technological inventions. Why would others want to come to your aid, help you in your philanthropic efforts, vote you to become President of a country or FB when you view them as narcissistic?

DD-new-pic-headshot Contributed by Deepika Bajaj, President and Founder, Invincibelle, LLC and co-founder, ActiveGarage (the company behind 99tribes). Deepika is also the author of the book DiversityTweet: Embracing the growing diversity in our world and Pink and Grow Rich:11 Unreasonable Rules for Success You can follow Deepika on Twitter at invincibelle
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