Posts Tagged ‘luck’

Time For a Change #6: Meeting Your Agenda

by William Reed on March 15, 2012

Raising the energy level of your meetings

We usually assume that an agenda is something prepared for a meeting, but unless the goals of the meeting are quite clear, it is likely that we will not meet our agenda.

A meeting can be a form of successful collaboration, or it can be a mindless ritual that saps your energy and time. What makes the difference is clarity of purpose, and a commitment to work as effectively as possible within the time available.

To truly meet your agenda you need to understand your circumstances and your objectives, and not simply pile on a list of things to do. The essential ingredient which determines the success or failure of any meeting is communication.

A highly practical model to understand communication was developed by Roger J. Hamilton, the founder of Wealth Dynamics, and Asia’s leading Wealth Consultant. Roger makes the distinction that communication contains a spectrum of four energy levels: Exchange, Connect, Motivate, and Inspire. While meetings are organized with best intentions, ask yourself at what level are most corporate meetings conducted? How often have you attended a meeting at which information is exchanged in a strange volley of suggesting and then shooting down each new idea that is presented?

The idea generators focus on possibilities, and suggest new things to do, or new ways of doing things. The idea critics focus on reasons why those ideas would not work, and therefore should be abandoned. This is demotivating for both sides. Mere idea exchange is a form of corporate wheel spinning, because without achieving any traction, there can be no effective action.

People connect when they get the goals at a gut level. Something clicks when the ideas and actions presented make sense not only at a logical level, but also at an emotional and intuitive level. Still nothing changes until people take this connection and do something with it.

Although the energy improves when people at the meeting become motivated, problems occur when the motivation is not shared by other members of the team, or when it lasts only as long as the meeting, and is soon forgotten on returning to the daily grind.

The reason we aspire to inspire is that inspiration lights the fire of internal motivation, and leads to action that does not need to be driven from the outside. Inspiration is self-sustaining.

Improving your LUCK

O, Fortuna! Since Ancient Greece and before humankind have been interested in improving its fortune. And yet the Wheel of Fortune is often portrayed as something whimsical, to which you need a magical connection for it to shine on you. Las Vegas thrives on the theme of Luck be a Lady Tonight! And yet when you look closely at those who are considered lucky in love, in business, and in life, you see that there are elements at work over which we all have some control.

One of the tenets of Wealth Dynamics is that LUCK is no accident. It is constructed of four elements that are easy to remember, yet not so easy to practice.

LOCATION

Location is the mantra in retail sales as the secret to success, but location is extremely important to success in any endeavor in life. The mood of a place can kindle or kill your enthusiasm. The decor of a room can affect how well you learn and what you remember. Environment is very important, and fortunately we can often do something about it, even if it means changing your physical location. In Japanese it is called 場 (ba) and is the primary focus when people set about trying to make improvements.

UNDERSTANDING

Understanding starts with seeing, not just on the surface, but deep behind the obvious. The character for 観 (kan) depicts a stork silent but fully aware of any movement. We need awareness, and an openness to see with the eyes of understanding, rather than judging the situation with blind eyes.

CONNECTIONS

Rather than starting a meeting with what you want to say, find out what information, experience, and emotions you have in common that are connected to the meeting agenda. Make sure that everyone feels connected and involved at some level. The character for 縁 (en) means edge, interface, connection, or relationship. It is frequently used to highlight how you are connected to another person, often in a surprising or synchronistic way.

KNOWLEDGE

The lowest component in communication is data, which can be assembled to create knowledge. However, knowledge only becomes useful when it is transformed into experience and wisdom. People easily assume that they know something just having heard about it. Socrates said that the beginning of wisdom was the realization that you know next to nothing. There is always more to learn, if you have the qualities of humility and curiosity in the right blend. The character for 知 (chi) means knowledge, but knowing at a deeper level. When you have this kind of knowledge you earn peoples’ trust through your natural authority and authenticity. Knowledge must then transform into action.

Download a Mandala Chart which summarizes these ideas with questions that will help you in Improving Your LUCK.

These words go deeper than their superficial meanings, and when you can combine them you get the magic winning hand! Your LUCK will naturally improve, and your meetings will meet the agenda with action and results.

Dirty Dozen #1 – Luck

by Rajesh Setty on October 9, 2009

Today is the start of a 12-part series called “The Dirty Dozen.” We will cover 12 words that you should eliminate from your vocabulary.

Introduction to the Dirty Dozen series:

We live in our daily conversations. That’s what we do – we are either talking to someone or we are talking to ourselves. Our conversations have a HUGE influence on where we go in our life. Actually, way more than you think they do.

Our conversations can empower us or they can bring us down.

Our conversations can help creating long-term relationships or end existing relationships.

Our conversations can help build our identity or make it easy for others to ignore us.

Our conversations are really what we are.

If that’s the case, it is in our best interest to notice and eliminate (or reframe) a few words that might be hurting us. I have picked 12 such words.

With every word below, I have provided a brief commentary of why that word needs to be re-visited or reframed or simply eliminated from your vocabulary. Don’t take my word for it. Engage in a conversation about it with someone that’s close to you and more important  – someone that you respect.

Please remember that when you eliminate these words for your vocabulary, you not only do so literally but also the way of thinking and actions that these words produce. And, that’s what will make a difference!

Dirty Dozen #1 –  Luck

dirty-dozen-luckDictionary definition:
Success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than one’s own actions.

For me luck has a different meaning. One of the best definitions of luck I read was:

“Luck is the meeting point of the opportunities that are passing by and your preparedness to take advantage of them.”

As I move in the marketplace, I see that people have varying definitions of luck. The version of luck that’s popular goes something like this:

“Luck is the missing piece in our past successes and the secret ingredient in the recipe of the successes of others.”

In other words people usually think that their successes were purely based on their efforts but others had the good fortune and got lucky along the way. By attributing “luck” as one of the key factors in the success of others, you dilute all that would have gone into creating that success. You almost make it seem like if you too had that “luck,” you too would have been way more successful. If you reflect on this even for a minute, you know that this is flawed thinking but this kind of thinking provides you “insurance for inaction.”

The problem is complicated only because so many people around you are attributing the success of someone else to luck. It’s so common that you start thinking that there must be some truth to it.

A point to note here is that reliance on “luck” indicates an “absence of effort.” Strange things happen in the world and some things may really happen in the world without effort or with VERY minimum effort. For example, someone can win a lottery ticket. That’s luck right there. What gets missed is that this is an exception rather than a rule. This is an anamoly. Our world operates on rules and not on exceptions. The existence of an exception validates the rule even further.

Unless you want to chase exceptions in life, stop chasing luck!

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Illustration by Ming. Ming is the creator of the Fantasy Story webcomic. He is also a freelance illustrator, designer, painting instructor and occasional luxury car salesman. Ming is based in Penang, Malaysia. You can find him on twitter @Artmaker