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Are you moving forward or drifting in your life?

by Vijay Peduru on March 3, 2010

If we examine our life, we have some areas which are not the way we want them to be. For example, we want to move ahead in our career but we are stuck at the same position, Things don’t happen the way we want them to happen. Why?, It is because we have not genuinely accepted this as a problem and have not taken full responsibility for it. We may think we took responsibility but we don’t. The good news is it is very easy to find out if we are genuinely taking responsibility and the test is rooted in action. The test is simply to notice if we are acting or reacting. The former resides in the land of ‘taking responsibility’ and the latter does not.

In reading about countless successful people, I have noticed that they move things forward to produce the situations they want.

In other words they become a “cause in the matter” i.e they cause things to happen. Once we know that we are the “cause in the matter”… opportunities that we were blind to before will start to appear, they appear because , now we are looking for them. For example, when you drive today, decide to enjoy the roads, the scenery along the way.. and for this trip stop thinking about anything. I bet even if you have been driving for a few years, in this trip you will “notice” new things that you never saw before… even though the driving route is the same, the car is the same, the destination is the same and even the components of the scenery are the same (they have always been there!)

So, how do we make things happen in our life? Here are 2 ways:
  1. Be the “cause in the matter“: Notice that we can let things happen or we can make things happen. Decide to take responsibility and look for opportunities to make things happen.
  2. Notice if you are a drifter or causer : Every moment of your life, you can ask yourself “Am I drifting or causing something to happen in my life”. Causing does not mean any movement. it just means anything which will help us move forward in life to achieve what we want. “Thinking” about your life and goals in life is causing too.  Playing with our kids or enjoying a movie with the kids counts as causing too.
Just gazing at a beautiful scenery without any thoughts… to help rejuvenate your body and soul is causing too. if we practice this, we can notice how our days, months and years pass by. In the begining do this as a fun exercise, just notice and don’t judge and put yourself down.  if we make ourselves bad, then we won’t do this again.  Gradually we will change.

Go ahead, Be a causer and drifting will never happen.

P.S. Thanks to landmark Education for the distinction “Cause in the matter”.